How To Have Authentic Confidence


I’m sure you can agree that self-confidence is vitally important when you consider the extremely high levels of uncertainty so many people are feeling these days. So much is happening so fast. Many people are facing the need to re-invent your health, relationships and career – finances. There seems to be so much to learn.  
I know because I am also re-inventing how I connect with my students and also how to offer high value courses online. Admittedly, at times it feels like a daunting mission with constant learning needed. So much so that I have felt frustrated and even thinking to throw the towel in.
How about you? Can you relate?
I am continually reminded that with the right training and tools, it’s easier as long as you have the confidence in yourself to be able to figure things out. Fortunately I have and use the Silva tools to continue to believe that I can figure things out. I’d like to assist you to do the same. 

Confidence in oneself comes from experience, wisdom and especially from having evidence that you have indeed made progress and/or enjoyed some wins. It becomes a resource state that enables you to move through life with a higher degree of certainty and FLOW.


You create a resource state of hope, confidence and certainty by reliving with intense positive emotion a past moment of excellence and lock it in with a trigger such as your three fingers held together. You may remember this tool that you learn in Silva Life System.

You create a resource state of hope, confidence and certainty by reliving with intense positive emotion a past moment of excellence and lock it in with a trigger such as your three fingers held together. You may remember this tool that you learn in Silva Life System.
I hope to see you in an Immersion soon. I would like to help you to sustain your motivation to grow, learn, optimize your health and thrive. The Silva Method Immersion Experience is packed with How To Do It Tools. Please come and join me and let’s grow together.


Upon reading some of the latest research in Neuroscience and advanced Psychology about peak performance and some of the myths associated with so-called gifted people in PEAK by Anders Ericsson and Robert Poole.

I am fascinated by how their research findings reported so closely parallels what I have also observed in my work in the Silva training and developing intuition.  I want to pass on to you some ideas that can help you. 


The authors wrote, “Clearly the research shows that we are mistaken to assume that people who we often think are high achievers, the best in their field (in any field) are born that way.

We all know that practice makes perfect. Right?”


There are distinctions that separate the so-called gifted from the rest of us.

One such distinction is called Deliberate Practice or purposeful practice. 


“The research has shown that generally speaking, once a person attains a level of acceptable performance and is on auto-pilot, the additional years of practice don’t lead to improvement.”

This would explain how it is so common for people to reach a plateau and get stuck there. This could be in your health, the quality of your relationships, sales performance and even your golf game.

“The science shows that the most effective and most powerful type of practice in any field work is accomplished by harnessing the adaptability of the human body and brain to create, step by step, the ability to do things that were previously not possible.


It involves getting out of our comfort zone but do it in a focused way, with clear goals, a plan for reaching those goals, and a way to monitor your progress. And of course, have support to maintain your motivation.”


It has been my experience that with what Anders and Poole call deliberate – purposeful practice “Flow State”: a neurological phenomenon documented by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, distinguished professor of Psychology – Claremont Graduate University is the result.

It is the experience of the feeling that the “universe” has got your back. This is especially true when it comes to consciously awakening, trusting and applying intuition to create a more fulfilling life.

Have you ever struggled with trusting your intuition? 

Have you ever wished you had listened and trusted your intuition?

If your answer is yes, welcome to the club. I know for I have also had these struggles from time to time. It can be so tricky when it comes to something so subjective as intuition, gut feelings and/or inner wisdom. 


If you are building a business, in sales, working as a coach and or therapist or just want to feel more intimately connected with loved ones, you’ve come to recognize that things are not always as they appear to be.

So often we get impressions that go beyond logic and reasoning that prove to be insightful and make a world of difference in our effectiveness.


So many of you over the years have honored me with your attendance in my Silva Basic Lecture Series and now Silva Life & Intuition System where we go much deeper into this work.

Activating intuition with control and focus is an art form and skill that anyone can develop with the right training and practice. 


Recently, a coach/mentor client of mine who felt like she was stuck, was able to boost her sales from a few hundred a week to $1,100 in a week after only two weeks of applying these principles.

Another client after 4-5 weeks is now getting through his demanding schedule with greater ease and increasing quality time with the family.



1. First and foremost is using the skill to stay calm and focused even under pressure. You can sustain a calmer more relaxed state by making meditation a daily practice, taking a nature walk, enjoying some art, dance and/or music.

2. Intuition can be developed like any other skill. It takes time, patience and practice; so in order to sustain your motivation, you need to be clear about your purpose or big why you want to develop your intuition.

3. Logic, reasoning and critical thinking skills are the polar opposite of intuition. Being playing and making a game of your practice sessions will assure you more creative/intuitive expression.

The Silva Method now in our 52nd year continues to offer you a step by step proven approach to get into a “Flow State”.  And the “LIVE” 4 Day Immersion Experience of Life and Intuition System is proven to be the most powerful way to get into Flow.


I will start helping you from the moment you register to attend by helping you clearly define your goals. I will send you a simple questionnaire exercise that will help you clarify what you want.

Then you will have my undivided attention as I guide you step by step during the Immersion Experience and give you constant feedback as you begin to practice applying what you learn to promote better health, enrich a relationship, manage your weight, improve sales and/or athletic performance and more.  


You will also step out of your comfort zone in a fun way by playing games with your intuition and have the direct experience of having very accurate experiences with your intuition.

Most admit that they are blown away by these intuition games and the result is a giant shift into a much more hopeful, optimistic belief in yourself and your ability.


And it doesn’t stop at the completion of the Immersion. You will receive ongoing support with free video training, inspiration, motivation and a lifetime of free review privileges. Oh yeah, there is a small reviewer seat charge.


Most importantly, your satisfaction is guaranteed. All I ask is that you experience the entire 4 days from start to finish and then evaluate. If you do not agree that it’s one of the best investments in yourself that you’ve ever made, you upon completing the program can return the materials I gave you and request a refund.

So you can only gain from this! 


The upcoming Immersions in Farmington and Chicago are beginning to fill up.  This is your opportunity to get into flow now and stay there; so grab your seat while you can.

Registration in each location is limited to the first 24 to register; so act now and be sure to claim your seat. Convenient time payments can also be arranged with Barbara at 860 674-1009.


I hope you will join me and take a leap of faith in yourself and the power of this purposeful training with me.

Retrain Your Brain To Get The Most Out Of The Silva Skills


Retraining the brain to create neural pathways requires focusing on a clear intention with elevated emotions and repetition. This video lesson was prepared for Ken’s Silva Method students to inspire them to make a daily practice of their Silva skills.

The Power Of A Thought To Succeed

There are four principles that make up the foundational framework that all personal and professional development programs are built on. These principles are universal, simple, straightforward and a challenge to adhere to.

High Performance, getting what you want or manifesting like a Master is all about taking command of your life from the inside out.
The 4 Step Process is the very core – foundation to any self-improvement modality.

1. Cultivate creative thoughts of possibilities…your Best Self. This is the trigger – switch – spark that fires ……

2. Feelings – Emotions -memories which cause the brain to release a flood of neurochemicals that…..

3. Produce a State of Being – mentally and physically which has a direct influence on the quality of our actions/behaviors – performance which…….

4. Affects the Outcome and/or Results!

Cultivating creative thoughts is the key to start the process of bringing out your Best Self and a life defined by a vision of the future.


Think Outside Of the Box – A Neuro Tip from Mark Waldman
“Repeated exposure to the same ideas weakens the brain’s ability to take action. Neurons become more active during any form of learning, and thus we are more motivated when we are introduced to new experiences, feelings, and thoughts. Whenever we are learning something new, communication between neurons improves, whereas old ideas put the brain to sleep. So if you want to stay happy, healthy, and interested in life, expose yourself to new people, experiences, and ideas.  Eric Kandel won the Nobel Prize for his discoveries about learning and habituation by studying the effects on the neurons of sea slugs!”


Silva Method Practitioners – A Friendly Reminder

  • The Memory Pegs – Fantastic Voyage Exercise – Laboratory And Counselors – Mental Projection Exercises are excellent tools to cultivate creative thought and thinking out of the box.
  •  You can then use Mirror of The Mind and/or Holoviewing to program your goals and Life Vision.



Take Command…It’s your Life After-all!!!

Stop settling for less. If you want to take command of your life and create a life that is filled with passion, achievement, and reward, the most effective solution is through self-improvement and personal growth. This is a chance to focus solely on your personal growth and development, and a chance for you to learn how to become a stronger, more resourceful and more powerful person. Winners find a way and Ken Coscia can help you find yours at The Immersion Experience.

Are You Ready?! 

You can select your time and location here.


Remember to…….. DO Good – Make A Difference – Have Fun & Thrive!



You can expand on these tools in the comfort and privacy of your home 24/7. Please check out Ken’s New online Advanced Master Class Mini-Courses.  

You can get all the details and/or get your’s here.






5 Steps To Solve Problems And Create Solutions


Solving problems and creating solutions requires both creativity and a framework to guide us. 

Ken, Silva lead instructor and International Training Director will share with you the five steps necessary to solve problems, create solutions, take command of your life, increase your income, improve your relationships, optimize your health, and experience what seems like the universe is conspiring to help you manifest your life’s desires.
New research has taught us that our brain is actually able to change based on experiences. This is called Neuroplasticity and as it turns out even the aging brain change learn, adapt and change.

Mastering Your Life is an Inner Game and the one key to SUSTAINED success in every area of your life. In short, it’s an Owner’s Manual for Your Mind. If you get this right, your life will never be the same and you will be free from struggle once and for all. You’ll Make Better Decisions and Recognize Your Opportunities by accessing your creativity and intuition. Making the most of opportunities also means recognizing them for what they are and not making them worse.




How To Reduce Inner Conflict At Work Or Home

You can reduce and/or eliminate inner conflict and the resulting emotional pain by first recognizing that conflict is OK and inevitable.



When faced with a challenging situation, negative/angry person and/or feeling out of integrity, you can ask:

1. Can I change him/her?

2. Can I Fix him/her?

3. Can I help him/her?

4. Can I change me? (the most effective)

I use these questions to help me work through negative emotions and upsets with other people. The use of these questions has made a big difference and I’d like to help you to do the same.

I recommend that you ask these questions and reflect on your answers while in a relaxed meditative state; ie Alpha level.

One of the dynamic meditation tools that I use throughout my personal and professional life to amplify the benefits of the clarity gained with the conflict questions is the Open Your Heart Meditation

We, as we move through life, experience many challenges, demands and temporary setbacks… stressors. These demands coupled with an inability to manage them can lead to disharmony, imbalance and overwhelm. It’s as if the Ego is having a tantrum. We, under these conditions, can become self absorbed, self centered and needy and thus lose our effectiveness as a human being.

The Opening Your Heart Meditation is recommended as a technique to calm the Ego and transform your energy into a higher expression… to center in love.  If we vibrate with love, prosperity and happiness, we will attract more love, prosperity and happiness. It is a simple and yet a profound truth.

The Opening Your Heart Meditation is a guided dynamic meditation that can raise the energy of your vibration and strengthen the coherence and power of your heart chakra to enhance your manifestation skill. Practicing with this exercise can calm restless feelings and transform your energy into a higher expression… to center in love. And as a side benefit you will sleep so much better and even improve communication and your manifestation skills.

The Opening Your Heart Meditation is now available as a mini-course.
You can check it out by clicking here.




Manifesting What You Want – Upgrading Your Co-Creation Skills


We live in unprecedented times with so many opportunities available to us to improve the quality of life, live with purpose, improve relationships, build a new business and manifest prosperity. I do believe this to be true. All the data supports this contention. I feel very fortunate about the life I’ve created and yet sometimes this belief is hard to believe; especially when we witness the volume of uncertainty, the political climate and the ever widening disparity culturally and economically.

How about you?

Regardless of how crazy life seems to get or how overwhelmed we feel, the solution lies in our ability to sustain confidence. Not the positive thinking kind of confidence which is great BUT the kind of confidence we have in our ability to somehow, someway figure things out. The kind of confidence where we can say, Hey I’ve been there, done that and it worked out. If I did it before, I can do it again.

I honor you and the persistent efforts you’ve made the work through the struggles.

Building confidence is a necessary exercise for many of us. 

Confidence in oneself comes from experience, wisdom and especially from having evidence that you have indeed made progress and/or enjoyed some wins. It becomes a resource state that enables you to move through life with a higher degree of clarity, focus and FLOW.

Self-confidence does not always come naturally. Building it up takes deliberate, conscious effort. While no step-by-step program (even Silva) is perfect, there are some steps that may help you build up your sense of confidence.

You create a resource state of hope, confidence and certainty by reliving with intense positive emotion a past moment of excellence and lock it in with a trigger that you can use when you need it in a new situation to access the feelings of confidence; such as your three fingers held together.

This video lesson is evidence based in Neuro-Psychology, studies on cellular memory and the work of Dr. Albert Ellis. Enjoy and please I’d love to hear from you and your comments.

To Learn More Click Here.


The Best Of The Best 2017 Master Classes – New Year Reflection


This was a LIVECAST event that included an expansion of the original Silva tools – 3 Fingers, Mirror Of The Mind – Laboratory and Counselors that inspired Jose Silva and a pioneering movement that became the Silva Method.

You will learn how to develop advanced applications of manifestation skills, higher self alignment and intuition to Take Command Of Your Life for 2018!


The New Year Reflection idea comes to us via my friend Jon Butcher of Lifebook whom I have deep respect for. His  buddy Tim Ferris sent it to him  and I want to share it with you. I do this exercise periodically. 
Tim says that REFLECTION on last year is way more important than setting goals for the coming new year – especially if you’re doing it in a vacuum.


FIRST: Ask yourself, what REALLY WORKED for you in 2016? What were your biggest wins? 
What were the 20% of your actions that yielded 80% of your results? Really dial into that – and then commit to doing MORE of that stuff next year. Write down what that might look like.


SECOND: What DIDN’T WORK for you last year? What people, projects and initiatives created stress and urgency in your life? 
Make that list – and then commit to ELIMINATING that stuff in 2017. Write down what that might look like too.


Tim says that these two lists should be the FOUNDATION of your goals for the coming new year, so you’re building on something tangible, tried and true.


Makes perfect sense to me and I’m going to do it this year. And it makes sense to do anytime.


So if you’re game, block out a couple of uninterrupted hours, grab a cup of hot chocolate or your favorite beverage and put this exercise to work for you.